The Science of Extraordinary Relationships
How Seeking.com was engineered for eligible singles who are ready to find relationships that genuinely matter. A position paper on what mainstream dating gets wrong, and what we built instead.
By Brandon Wade | Founder & Co-CEO, Seeking.com | 2026
What this paper is, and why it was written
Seeking.com was born from loneliness. Built on science. And transformed by love. This paper is a full account of the thinking behind the platform: why the conventional model of online dating fails the people it should serve most, and what a better design looks like in practice.
Drawing on relationship science, evolutionary psychology, game theory, and two decades of operating data, we lay out the case for a dating community built for eligible singles and the selective singles who are looking for them. The goal is simple. Relationships that don’t just pass the time, but change lives.
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