Safety in Online Dating
How To Date Safely and Respectfully
Our Dedicated Approach to Your Safety
The more we grow, the more strides we take to keep the Seeking community safe. We strongly feel it is our social responsibility to be the leaders in safety and security in online dating.
Our support team continuously educates our Seeking.com community on safety measures when communicating online. We have several notices throughout the platform warning members to never give bank information or other financial information. If fraudulent behavior occurs, we work to support victims to recover assets when possible.
We encourage our users to report any suspicion of bad behavior so we can investigate immediately. In addition, Our team has spent countless hours working to build and improve systems to balance quality, user privacy, and ethical behavior.
How We Use Technology To Help Protect You
Our commitment to keep our members safe will never be compromised. We will continue our focus to roll out all new and enhanced safety features
We utilize user reports, meaning once a user is reported we can tie systems together to identify potential repeat scammers to keep them off our site.
We leverage artificial intelligence (AI) at multiple touch points during our members’ journey to minimize the risks to their safety.
We work with multiple 3rd parties to specifically identify, target, and block scam accounts.
We use human-in-the-loop (HITL), which includes both humans and AI, to fight potential fraudulent behaviors, including scams.
ARE YOU READY TO DATE SAFELY?
Your personal safety is Seeking’s primary focus. It should be yours as well. As we continue to expand and enhance our safety features, we also want to help you feel more secure and confident when planning an in-person date. Here a are a few things that you can do in preparation for your first in-person meeting:
LIMIT THE DETAILS YOU SHARE
Your personal details, including your home address, place of work, and favorite local hang-outs should remain a mystery.
Personal photos on your profile should avoid making places that you and your friends frequent too obvious. And needless to say, all personal financial information should remain private.
This also applies to any personal photos you share on your profile. Try to avoid making places that you and your friends frequent too obvious.
Remember, not all first meet-ups are a perfect match, and privacy is key to moving on. Making sure that your potential match is honest in who they say they are is a great way to filter out any potential doubts.
PERSONAL RESEARCH IS NOT ‘CREEPING
Doing a little background research on a date prior to your meet-up is both a very common and a very smart move. Checking social accounts to make sure that your potential match is honest in who they say they are, is a great way to filter-out any potential doubts.
VERIFIED FOR COMFORT
Seeking.com is committed to helping singles find honest relationships based on open communication. A quick phone call or video chat are simple ways to verify your date is who they say they are before you meet in person
DATING HONESTLY AND WITH RESPECT
Life is too short to settle. That’s why we want our members to find those relationships that align most with their personal goals and dreams. Honesty and open communication have always been our core principles.
BEFORE YOUR FIRST DATE
Feeling a little anxious? That’s normal. But, here are a few suggested recommendations to follow before you connect in person with your date.
- Always let at least one trusted friend or family member know before you meet someone for the first time.
- Be sure to share important details of your meeting, including where and when you are going.
- Plan to have the first meeting in a public space.
- Have a virtual meeting before you have an in-person meeting.
- Schedule a phone call or text with your trusted friend or family member for after the date.
Dating Safely and Comfortably
Remember, your date is most likely as nervous as you are to meet in person for the first time. Be sure you’ve discussed any health or safety concerns before meeting up with your date. The pandemic may be easing restrictions in some areas, but there are many people who’d prefer to stick to the outdoors or continue with masked dates for now.
Also, be sure to include a more social get together option that doesn’t involve alcohol, like a trip to a local park, a museum or roller skating rink. That way, you and your date won’t feel pressured to drink if you don’t want to.
If you’re drinking, keep an eye on your drink. If you have to leave it for any length of time, you can always order a fresh one.
DURING THE FIRST DATE
Approach each date as an opportunity to get to know someone better rather than going in with any expectations that your meetup should progress further. Be kind, embrace a positive attitude, and aim to have fun. This will help put you and your date at ease.
You are in full control of how things progress. If you don’t feel comfortable, it’s most important to put yourself first. Always feel free to politely leave the date. Neither of you owes each other anything, regardless of who pays for the meal.
If necessary, enlist the help of a waiter or your bartender to help to get you out of an uncomfortable situation. If you feel it’s more serious, have them help you organize a way to get home and alert their management.
FOR MORE INFORMATION ON SEEKING.COM’S SAFETY PRACTICES, VISIT OUR HELP CENTER’S RESOURCE ON SAFETY TIPS AND PRECAUTIONS AT SEEKING.COM/SAFE.